love is blind
things that you thought you are receiving and feeling might just be something that you builded up
because love makes one blind, sometimes you get so overwhelmed by the actions and words that you forgot to feel what you really wants, what your heart really wants
you tend to forget your stand and your expectations
the more you get, the more you tend to give in
the more you give in, hoping that the man would see all the effort that you've put in, the more you're in the midst of losing yourself
because of love, we compromise
because of the amount of love we put in, we thought the man would/should feel it and will in return rewards you with the same
and when the man didn't, we get angry and disappointed on why the man is treating you in such a way
this is the expectation we unknowingly set for ourselves and the man just don't get it why we are angry because to them love doesn't seems to work this way
not all women are like this, not the strong ones
the strong ones don't need the man to validate on their actions
in order to be a strong woman, meaning they got things that they are busy with, their life
most importantly, they got their life to live in
they dont rely their love on someone
they dont invest their time on someone and hoping to find love in returns
they give love, but they also receive love naturally
and the weak ones asked, why can't they get it as well?
the main reason might just be he is not the one
you're just investing your love and time on the wrong one
the one that would never reciprocate no matter how much you've put in because they are just not into you
a woman can never change a man because she loves him
a man changes himself because he loves her
if it's not a two way street, it's never gonna work
the second could be because you give love hoping to get love in return
this is not unconditional love
this is not giving love as what you thought, but wanting love in returns
a strong woman does not work this way and doesn't need anyone to validate on their actions
they are strong enough to find their happiness on their own and not expecting it from others
unless one can understand this logic, else they'd still be in the maze they created for themselves, lost.
sometimes we must be lost in order to be found.